Last week, I wrote about some of the ways introverts can build community.
This week, I want to focus on how introverts can operate in relationships with people who are more extroverted.
We don’t waste our time with people we’re not completely crazy about.
If we agreed to go on a date with you, we like you. Some days we can talk for hours, but sometimes we’re not so good at replying and talking on the phone.
You’ll be surprised how much we actually live in our heads.
People often confuse us for extroverts, but we're too introspective and over-think too much to be one.
Josh quickly learned that I don’t unwind by participating in small talk.
Here’s an enlightening list of dating do’s and don’ts, courtesy of a true-blue introvert.
Or if we’re on Skype at home, I’ll leave the room when I get tired and go do something else. As an introvert, I had to learn to be alone with someone else.
When I come home from work, I’m usually tired and don’t want to socialize much.
It always ends with him still engaged in conversation and my standing there tapping my foot because I was ready to leave half an hour ago. We either show up a little later or leave a little early. He says I have “a look” that lets him know I’m ready to go. If I’m involved in the socializing and need some alone time, I excuse myself and let him keep talking.
He has a look he gives back that says he acknowledges my request to leave. As with my shopping example, I’ll go browse the aisles while I’m waiting for him to finish. Being married is far different from dating in that when I need alone time, I can’t just say goodbye to Josh and go home. As someone who appreciates space, it was an adjustment always having someone around.