Swiping through friends' dating apps gives me a legal high.Like a lot of other women in long-term relationships, I totally missed the online-dating boat.Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.My hope is that my friends let me play romantic roulette with their love lives because they think my job affords me some top-secret dating intel.In reality, they probably just let me do it because of how much it fascinates me.
She's tried out Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid, and I would say that less than 10% of the people I write to write back to me. I write to all kinds of men who are both younger and older, of all races,single and divorced, etc, etc.and I’ve been very, very careful to use all of your tips, and I read your blog faithfully. I feel like I’m the ONE outlier who can’t make your tips work for me.Unlike most of the lookie-loos who read free blogs and newsletters and don’t try anything different, you put your money where your mouth is and invested in Finding the One Online. However, there are a few variables that might be affecting your experience…and I’d just like to point them out to you. In this famous Ok Cupid blog post, Ok Cupid takes great pains to illustrate that while women think that 80% of men are BELOW AVERAGE in attractiveness, men actually have a fair appraisal of women’s attractiveness.And now you want to know when the payoff is going to come. Since I don’t know you at all, I’m just going to be objective and theorize why you might not be doing as well as you’d like. And while they still write disproportionately to the best looking 33% of women, normal women still get plenty of attention online.Women lie more than men by nearly 10 percentage points! Perhaps they assume their personalities will magically make up for the fact they do not look anything like the picture that was posted online. Although fewer men lie than women, their top lie is about having a job that is better than the one they've actually got.