You’ve met someone you’re interested in online, but now you’re perhaps a tad frustrated that your budding relationship is seeming more pen pal than love interest — which, of course, begs the question: How do I move a new online relationship offline?Do you find yourself writing someone or multiple someones online daily but haven’t actually met any of them? If you feel comfortable or if he asks, offer your phone number as a way to reach you to start to take it offline.You can put him at ease by letting him know up front when you’re free to talk.And when you answer, let him know that you’re so happy he called but you have only about 10 minutes or so.It’s fun, but it doesn’t become ‘real’ until you’ve met in person and found out if there’s a spark between you. A number of factors will affect how long you wait and each situation will be unique, Some people like to meet matches as soon as possible, especially if they’re local.This can be done very safely if you choose a daytime meeting in a busy local cafe and arrange to have a quick coffee together to decide if you’d like to get to know each other better.And just because you’re artlessly writing to dozens of people doesn’t mean that any of them want to feel like a piece of meat. You’re not getting to know her, you’re not showcasing your wit, you’re not laying the groundwork for a great first date.You’re simply trying to secure her phone number with the minimal amount of time and investment.
Using the phone is a brilliant idea to allow him the space to ask to meet you.Starting with a coffee date also gives you less time to get anxious or self-conscious because there’s less build up.Financially, it’s also a good idea because it allows you to meet lots of matches without splashing out on expensive dates. Some people are anxious to know all they can about someone before meeting them.Asking her for personal information before you’ve exchanged pleasantries?This is the equivalent of sex without foreplay, fellas, and women HATE it.There’s a fine line between underselling yourself and blowing your own trumpet when it comes to dating online. Follow these dos and don’ts gleaned from thousands of couples matched by e Harmony and move from online relationship to the real deal.